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Domestic Violence
What is Domestic Violence?
What do we mean when we talk about domestic violence? Whereas a healthy relationship is based on equality and respect, an unhealthy relationship is based on power and control. Domestic violence occurs when one partner uses power and control over his/her significant other. Abuse and violence can happen in any relationship regardless of age, race, religion, ethnicity, level of education, sexual orientation, or economic background.

Red Flags: 15 Signs Of an Abuser
  1. Always has to be in control
  2. Blames circumstances (always has an excuse of their behavior)
  3. Blames others
  4. Closed-minded (believes in stereotypical gender roles)
  5. Denial (difficulty communicating / compromising)
  6. Extreme jealousy (calls you constantly, visits unexpectedly, always has you "check in")
  7. Hypersensitivity (easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings)
  8. Isolation (often tries to cut off ties with family and friends)
  9. Plays on your guilt
  10. Possessive (acts like they "own" you)
  11. Unpredictable behavior (mood swings)
  12. Unrealistic expectations
  13. Uses intimidation (pressures you into sex, abusing drugs / alcohol)
  14. Uses verbal put-downs
  15. Violent tendencies or threats of violence

Cycle of Violence  Know Your Options
Emergency Counseling / Shelter Resources
Legal Resources
Support Groups and Advocacy

Know the Services Available to You
Restraining order assistance
City of Fremont Youth and Family Counseling
Victim / Witness Assistance 
Break the Cycle of Violence 

Take Action
If you are in an abusive relationship, we urge you to take necessary action to get yourself and your family safe. There are many organizations ready, willing and able to assist you. It just takes one phone call:
  • Safe Alternatives to Violent Environments (S.A.V.E.)
    Hotline: (510) 794-6055
    Office: (510) 790-6939
    S.A.V.E. Website